Zee How do you make a Filipina fall in love with you? We have been providing some valuable advice for dating single Filipinas for almost 50 years, so we have suggestions on how to win their hearts and minds.
Filipinos are enchanting, exceedingly sweet, happy, and stunning. Because of these wonderful personality traits, they get significant attention from men worldwide. You should know that getting their attention will take some romantic effort from you.
If you don’t have a romantic bone in your body, it may seem impossible to make a Filipina fall in love with you. However, if you have determined that you deserve a Filipina, this post will be your best reference guide! Forget your misconceptions and prejudices about Filipinas and rediscover them through this article.
Indulge Your Curiosity
“Stories are as unique as the people who tell them, and the best stories are in which the ending is a surprise.”
– Nicholas Sparks
As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. While dating, a Filipina will be keen to ask questions about you and is impatient and eager to know the answers. It will impress her if you show the same genuine interest, too. Ask questions to get some insight into who she is. Start by learning about all of the things behind her smile.
Celebrate Her Uniqueness
“Unique and different is the next generation of beautiful.”
– Taylor Swift
Everyone wants to be seen as an individual and appreciated for their uniqueness. Avoid mentioning stereotypes. Casting out preconceptions about Filipina women is one of the quickest ways to have them high-tailing it in the opposite direction.
Be the Perfect Gentleman
“Respect is one of the greatest expressions of love.”
– Don Miguel Ruiz
Although this is a universal suggestion, not just a tip for dating Filipinas, you should understand that your attitude influences her response. Your Filipina may not have perfect English, so ask simple but neutral questions before switching to more intimate matters once you have gained her trust. Try to make her laugh but avoid making sexual innuendoes, cracking complex jokes, or puns. Be the perfect gentleman. Show her respect by having excellent manners and an impeccable conversational style.
Curb Your Negativity
“You cannot hang out with negative people and expect to live a positive life.”
– Joel Osteen
Are you trash-talking to your exes? Are you complaining about your boss? Are you grumbling about your neighbor’s dog? This level of negativity could make your Filipina uncomfortable. It goes without saying that if you are speaking ill of other people to her, she’ll also have to wonder if you’d do the same about her with someone else. Now is not the time for doom and gloom, so try to lessen the whining.
Be Attentive
“The art of conversation lies in listening.”
– Malcolm Forbes
It would help if you remembered everything a Filipina tells you, or it would embarrassingly reveal that you have not been listening. You must note some facts and trivia that she disclosed, or it would be awkward if you asked the same questions. Take notes if you have to.
Know Her Culture
“No human culture is inaccessible to someone who makes an effort to understand, to learn, to inhabit another world.”
– Henry Louis Gates, Jr.
Here is another one of those suggestions: you don’t have to memorize a textbook on Philippine history or know how to carry an entire conversation in Filipino. However, knowing a few facts about her culture is an excellent way of showing genuine interest in her heritage, values, and traditions. Just mention that you’ve read, heard, or recalled something interesting about her country.
Respect Her Family
“East to west, home is best.”
– Chinese Proverb
Family is everything to a Filipino woman. The idea of being family-oriented is fundamental and deeply embedded in her culture. When you date a pretty woman from the Philippines, consider that you may also need to befriend and court everyone in her family, maybe even some third-degree cousins.
Be Open to Her Faith
“Just as a candle cannot burn without fire, men cannot live without a spiritual life.”
– Buddha
Religious beliefs tend to differ according to location, so only assume to know her faith after she tells you. While eighty-six percent of Filipinos are Roman Catholic, there are many other popular Christian denominations in the Philippines, including a powerful homegrown group called Iglesia ni Cristo. Islam is the second largest religion, and about 5% of the population is Muslim. Whether you and your Filipina date have similar religious views, respecting her spiritual preferences is essential.
Eat Her Food
“Laughter is brightest where food is best.”
– Irish Proverb
Filipinos are incredibly proud of their delectable cuisine. So, when you get invited to a Filipina’s house for the first time, try the food and learn to appreciate it. Even if you find the taste unfamiliar (highly unlikely), don’t ever refuse their food.
A recent survey says Filipinos are the most open to trying different cuisines. So, if your Filipina would-be-bride is eager and willing to eat your food, why shouldn’t you try hers?
Speak Her Language
“If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.”
– Nelson Mandela
Express your feelings for her in Filipino to make her fall in love with you. Learning a few sweet Filipino words is easy and will brighten her day. She will feel loved and valued for who she is. Here are descriptive and loving phrases to affirm how much your Filipino partner means to you:
- I love you. – Mahal Kita / Iniibig Kita (Poetic).
- I like you. – Gusto Kita.
- Finally, I found my dream girl. – Sa wakas natagpuan ko ang aking pangarap na babae.
- I am always here for you. – Nandito lang ako para sa’yo.
- I have every reason to wake up every day because I have you in my life. – Mayroon akong dahilan para gumising araw-araw dahil ikaw ay nasa aking buhay.
- I can’t explain how much you mean to me. – Hindi ko maipaliwanag kung gaano ka kahalaga sa akin.
Take Your Time
“Take time for all things: great haste makes great waste.”
– Benjamin Franklin
Slow and steady wins the race, so take your time. You won’t win a Filipina’s heart in a matter of days. Set realistic expectations, so you aren’t disappointed if she doesn’t fall in love with you immediately.
Divulge your entire life story into bits and pieces. Don’t spill all your secrets. Don’t boast about what you do. If you like her, giving her the “hard sell” on why you’re the man for her may be tempting. Take it gradually. A little mystery gives her something to ask you about without making you appear desperate or, worse, as if you don’t have boundaries.
Don’t Make Her Doubt Herself
“Love doesn’t die because of distance. It dies because of doubt.”
– Anonymous
Don’t throw comments like: “What are you doing that for?” “Why are you thinking like that?” “You are lucky to have me,” “No one else will love you as I do,” or “You won’t find someone else to love you.” You won’t make a Filipina fall in love with you when you chip away at her confidence. Please don’t make her doubt herself and erode her self-esteem.
Be Prompt
“Emotions aren’t doable. Actions are doable.”
– Stella Adler
There is no need to engage in waiting games. If you want to call your Filipina:
- Do so. If she calls when you’re busy, tell her you’ll call her back later.
- Don’t wait a certain number of minutes or days between texts or phone calls.
- While living your life, make her an enjoyable part of it.
Understand “Tampo”
“With love and patience, nothing is impossible.”
– Daisaku Ikeda
“Tampo” is a Tagalog slang term for a range of behavior by withdrawing affection from someone when one’s feelings are hurt— a nonconfrontational and nonverbal form of expressing being upset.
A Filipina will withhold affection and ignore you because, in her mind, you did something wrong. It’s her way of expressing displeasure or dismay. “Tampo” has long been associated with Filipino culture, and though no direct translation exists, “sulking” or “fretting” in English comes close.
The Filipina you’re trying to impress may exhibit “tampo” several times to determine whether your intentions are authentic. Be patient and understanding when this happens. She’s not doing this to manipulate you. It’s cultural.
Know Her Circumstances
“He who is kind can never be unhappy.”
– Confucius
The Philippines is a developing nation or a third-world country. Third-world countries have high poverty rates, economic instability, and a lack of essential human resources compared to the rest of the world. What you might take for granted may not be so commonplace among Filipino women. Because of this, Filipinas generally seek a dependable man who can protect them from life’s difficulties. When their lives are in shambles, they want someone not to take charge, not take over, but to help as a partner—an authentic partner in life.
Remember, She’s Real
“Pearls don’t lie on the seashore. If you want one, you must dive for it.”
– Chinese Proverb
Treat Filipino women with respect and dignity. Lead with care, and you will find the love of your life.
And how many times do you tell a Filipina, you love her?
Never enough.
These are some suggestions for making a Filipina fall in love with you. What comes next is entirely up to you.
